KEZIAH L. MAYERS

As a young girl, born and raised in the West Indies, I was fascinated with the human body and mind. I sought to learn everything I could, and if I didn't understand, I would ask a million questions until I did. I spent my days in libraries and between the pages of books. A desire birthed within me to learn as much as I could about the body and mind. This desire took me all the way to graduate school.

During my graduate program, I realized that sex was not something commonly discussed in counseling. This realization led me to reflect on my own experiences in counseling. I had been a part of the kink community since 2016 and in my personal counseling, I never felt comfortable talking about sex and kink with my counselors. My counselors did not ask me about the role of sex in my life, my perception as a sexual being, and ways I may have used sex to avoid difficult work. Sex wasn't something commonly discussed in my culture, nor did I have access to appropriate educational or health resources. This was unfortunate because sex was part of my expression and connection with others, and kink was part of my identity. 

I became passionate about creating a safe space for the people I serve by providing what I wished I had received, and later what my clients had been missing from their own counseling. I wanted to empower my clients to advocate for themselves, to learn new things, and grow into their capabilities. I wanted to teach my clients about their bodies, dispel sexual myths that held them back, provide specific suggestions to improve their sexual pleasure, give room to help them explore their sexual identity, provide opportunities for experimentation and discovery, promote safety and autonomy, and lead them to a greater sense of self-confidence.